Are you happy? (I mean really wholeheartedly happy) Don’t think too much into the question, you should easily be able to answer yes or no. If your answer is yes then congratulations 🙌🏼 I am glad that you are happy today! Now go share that happy and joy with others. If your answer was no, don’t feel bad the sadness and hurt is not permanent.
When I was depressed and really unhappy I would try to remember in my mind the last time that I was happy. I would then try to figure out if I was happy in that moment because of a person, a place or a thing. This was a mistake because I was trying to figure how to replicate the moment to get my happy back.
In a previous blog I talked about the error in linking our own happiness to tangible things or people because we may not always have them. Don’t depend on others for your happiness. The goal to happiness is to figure out what makes you happy as a person (no one else, just you) Feelings of sadness, hurt or depressed are not going to last forever. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.
When I was at my lowest a friend gave me a card (shared) and on the front of it were positive affirmations. I did not understand positive thinking and it’s effects back then, but I did feel good every time I read the front of the card. I read those positive affirmations on good days and bad. In doing so I was taking a step away from negativity. Honestly the first step towards your happiness is easy because it begins with you being kind to yourself.
When I was feeling down I would always be very critical and hard on myself. This is one of the worst things you can do and it certainly will not improve your mood. You may not be able to change your whole situation right now, or make major changes, but you can make small changes. Positive affirmations and being kind to yourself are key. Remind yourself that your story is not over and that you can escape these feelings of hurt, negativity and depression. No matter how big or small do something today that really makes you happy!